Sunday, August 24, 2014


"Spirit guides can help you accomplish and achieve success in every area of your life by gently and consistently guiding and nudging you along your soul journey. Because we all have free will and free choice, you can decide to go against the current, and that is when your guides can call on others in the spirit world to give you resources in the way of people and finances, insight and love. We, however, have to be open and willing to accept it. Once there is recognition of assistance, even if there isn’t an awareness of who it is coming from, then doors can and will open wide."

Forevermore-Guided in Spirit by Edgar Allan Poe
Kristy Robinett
We all have spirit guides whether recognized or not. One of the most frequent questions that I receive in my office is “How many guides do I have?” followed by “What is his/her name?”  The term Spirit Guide refers to one or more entities that watch, teach, heal, and help us on our physical journey. Communication with our guides comes in different forms, but typically it is through telepathy, clairaudience and clairvoyance. Have you ever woken up to your name being called, or saw a shadow out of the corner of your eye? Or just felt like you should take a different route instead of your normal one? More than likely that was your spirit guide.

We often give the credit to our loved ones on the Other Side, or angels, and it isn’t that they don’t help out too, they do, but it is our spirit guides who have a humble (and frustrating) job of helping us to fulfill our highest potential while allowing free will and free choice to stay intact.

Each guide has a specific purpose to our life path. If you are going through health issues, you would have a guide who had that same ailment, or was possibly in the healing field before their passing. If you are in school for a certain major, your guide may have been an expert in that field. As we transition through our lives, our guides transition too depending upon what we need at that certain time.

When I was thirteen years old I had the most unusual spirit guide that appeared to me – Edgar Allan Poe. It took me over thirty years to admit that, even to my own husband, and not before I wrote the book Forevermore that will be coming out on October 7th, the 165th anniversary of Poe’s death; a death which has gone down in the history books as one of the most speculated deaths ever – that is until October 7, 2014 when I share his story.

Forevermore – Guided in Spirit by Edgar Allan Poe tells the story of my experience with him as a Spirit Guide, but the book also helps you discover your own guides and how you might be able to make their job easier, and in turn your life calmer. Until then, I would love to give you some suggestions now.

7 Ways to Help Your Helpers
  1.  Listen to your heart and make appropriate changes that will help you lead you closer to your goal. If things feel wrong, then probably something is wrong.
  2. Don’t cause chaos when chaos isn’t in the picture. Often people don’t know what to do when there isn’t drama, and yet beg for a drama-filled life. Don’t create chaos, enjoy the calmness.
  3. Have a clear vision. Or at least as clear as you can get. If you want a relationship, don’t be wishy washy about wanting a relationship for fear that you won’t receive a relationship. If you want a new job, don’t pretend you don’t.
  4. Take action instead of finding a reaction. So often the goal is lost because of impatience. Moving forward through action is so much more fulfilling than festering. Place yourself in the flow of action with the place and people that you see within your vision.
  5. Forgive yourself. Sit down and write yourself a letter. Let the scars heal for once and for all. We can't change the mistakes we made from the past. But we can keep moving forward to make our beautiful future.Forgiveness is the remedy. It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened. It means you’re letting go of the resentment.
  6. Appreciate you and all the things around you.
  7. Time Outs. Take time outs to clear your head. It helps to re-balance you so that the monster called impatience doesn’t rear its ugliness. One of my favorite quotes is “Spend time doing strange things with weird people”. I have embraced this in my own life and have to say that it makes life much more interesting, and more times than not, much more fun!

How You Know Your Guides Are Around
  1. You have a gut feeling.
  2. You have a shiver that goes down your spine.
  3. Someone tells you information that you need at the very same time and they know nothing that is going on in your life.
  4. You offer advice to someone else that is the advice that you need for your own life.
  5. You see repeated numbers or symbols.
  6. You are visited by an animal in nature that is no mistaking that it is a message.
  7. You see a shadow out of the corner of your eye. 
  8. You hear your name being called while sleeping or falling asleep.
  9. In the end, you don’t need to know your guide’s names, or know how many guides you have, just know that you have helpers and that you aren’t alone in your journey.

When I was on Darkness Radio last week (you can listen here – click on 8/21), Tim, one of the hosts, asked if you could choose three famous spirit guides, who would they be and why? Some suggestions I heard in chat were Walt Disney, Abe Lincoln, Michael Jackson, Nelson Mandela, Anne Frank, etc.  I would love to hear who you would want by commenting over here!

To see Forevermore-Guided in Spirit by Edgar Allan Poe BOOK TRAILER
To pre-order Forevermore-Guided in Spirit by Edgar Allan Poe VISIT HERE
Forevermore MERCHANDISE coming SOON!
There have been so many that have asked how they can help Kristy spread the word on the new book! If you'd like to help Kristy, spread the word of the new book by Tweeting and/or Facebooking the book info, adding it to your Goodreads book shelf, pre-ordering the book, asking your local library to purchase the book, asking your local bookstore to carry the book and sending her positive thoughts. Kristy has worked hard and we'd love to see her succeed. We are so thankful for all of YOU! ~TEAM POE  - Chuck Robinett

Kristy Robinett

Saturday, January 25, 2014

Belief, Joy & Love

Although the world is full of suffering,
it is full also of the overcoming of it.
My optimism, then, does not rest on the absence of evil,
but on a glad belief in the preponderance of good
and a willing effort always to cooperate with the good,
that it may prevail.
- Helen Keller

When all is said and done,
the one sole condition that makes
spiritual happiness and preserves it
is the absence of doubt.
- Mark Twain

Let me start by saying I've had an interesting last year, one that has taught me so much about love and fear that I'm writing yet another blog post about it.  I feel like I lived ten years in one, and I achieved enough spiritual healing for twelve people in that time.  It's been an intense twelve months that have brought me here to share with you because I have a few important pieces of life information to impart upon you compliments of The Divine, mainly the truth that fear is bad and belief and joy are pivotal in living a healthy happy life where we attract to us through our own divine energy, the same energy of God, that which we want most.   

One thing I've come to realize is I'm psychic.  Not Kristy psychic where I can hear people talking and see spirits but I have a direct connection with the divine and Spirit talks to me mainly through channeling.  Spirit also talks to me through signs, synchronicity and dreams.  Oh also through other people, songs, movies and... well Spirit talks to me in any way that I will pay attention!  I can be a bit, er, dense sometimes.

I feel compelled to use this blog post to give you a blanket statement that I will use forthcoming posts to explain in detail.  To describe it all here would take you, dear reader, until tomorrow morning to read.  My gems from Spirit are much better shelled out in small*ish* doses {I'm never brief!}  What I have to tell you is nothing you have not heard before but... well, let me just get to it.

You must live a life of joy with no fear or doubt if you want to be truly happy.  You must BELIEVE in your dreams, really truly believe, if you want them to come true.  If you believe in God or a divine creator you must turn your fear and doubt over to said entity and trust that you deserve and will have a happy and joyful life.  Why such a trite blanket statement?  It's all about energy and attraction.  Spirit often uses the phrase "You reap what you sow" with me and it is oh so true. What you think of most, concentrate on, where you place your energy, is what you draw to your life.  If you concentrate most on how badly your job sucks then your job will become even more unbearable.  If you begin telling yourself that you are lucky to have a job and turn the fear over to God then you will attract whatever change is coming your way.  I know it sounds very base and simple... and nearly impossible but it's truth.

I'm no physicist okay?  I can't sit here and explain to you about plank time or Big Bang Theory {the actual creation theory not the TV show- I love the TV show!} or parallel universes but I do know that were are all made of stardust, no matter that Adam and Eve story.  The earth is not 6000 years old- and we are not all separate.  We. Are. One.  We all come from the same stuff- God energy.  And it is a wonderful loving beautiful joyful energy.  We are all linked, some us more closely than others.  Soul mates, a topic for another post, exist and we interact with them sometimes on a daily basis- and these are people with whom we are energetically and soul connected.  Not only are we linked with other people but basically with everything.  Life is energy based and there are two major players: Love and fear.  Big L small f.  Love and fear are the two energies that exist on earth with all emotions stemming from each.  For example you have happiness, compassion, empathy, all love-based energies.  Then there is yucky jealousy, anger, doubt and sorrow, all fear-based energies.  When you have a love-based thought you draw to you more love.  But when you concentrate on fear the opposite is true- you bring fear into your life.  So if you flip some guy off in traffic and your blood is boiling, fists clenched... you just asked for a hot latte to spill into your lap later in the day.  Or to run out of gas.  Or for your wallet to get stolen.  But if you walk past a man sitting in the park looking hungry and ragged and you offer him some lunch, or you smile at the harried cashier and ask her with genuine concern how her day is going, or you say a prayer for someone who you know is struggling- you attract love to you, goodness.  You attract a closer parking spot, or a drawing from your child, or a much needed smile from a stranger.  Or bigger things like a promotion or a highly anticipated pregnancy. 

We all know there is too much fear in our world.  I don't feel the need to expand on fear.  This post is about joy and belief.  Joy and Belief... and Hope.  Hope is the confident expectation that God will answer your prayers.  God or... The Universe or The Force or whatever is your personal belief {or yes even non-belief.}  A confident expectation.  Think about it- a prayer, or positive intention or a ritual or manifestation or wish is all concentrating on what you want most so please make sure you are concentrating on the right stuff, positive energy that is for the good of all.

Doubt and fear, even in the tiniest of doses, automatically repel what you want most.  When you have a dream but you doubt that it can come true then unfortunately it won't.  It can't because you are not allowing it to come to you.  See all energy has a vibration.  Love energy has a high vibration and fear has a low vibration.  You attract to you "stuff" of a similar vibration to what you are feeling and putting out into the universe, and you can't mix high and low vibration.  If you have a positive dream {high vibration} but you doubt it {low vibration} those two are not going to jive; they cancel each other out.  Savvy?  I know this because I am living it, right here and right now.  I am living a once-in-a-lifetime, or once in twenty-five lifetimes, experience where God is showing me that dreams do come true IF I BELIEVE.  I'm being shown in small doses, lol, and it's been quite the experience.  It's all about belief and living a joyful existence.  And joy can be so difficult at times when we feel dark or dreary but I'm here to tell you, with faith and personal experience, that it is more important than the air we breathe- joy is everything.  We have to believe that there is light at the end of the tunnel, that once we turn our fear over to God and have faith, real trust, magic really does happen.

Miracles occur on a daily basis but we don't notice.  Spirit talks to all of us, urging us on with signs and messages but we write them all off as "coincidences."  We have become jaded and it is time to strip away the veils from our eyes and really *see.*  Did you know your soul is talking to you always?  Your "intuition" and "imagination"- those words are labels for soul communication.  Your soul is always trying to get through to you, to lead you on the right path to bring you happiness.  And it's all about living a joyful existence no matter what life is throwing at you, and we all know that life can throw us some struggle at times.  But the struggle will end when we finally surrender and accept that all we are in control of is our own energy- and we have to make it good energy.  God's got the rest. 

Impeccable awareness of where you place your energy is of utmost importance.  Don't throw your energy away to some silly criticism your boss tossed your away.  Or the traffic jam on the way home.  Instead count your blessings {we all have blessings even when we feel like we don't} and stay joyful.  I can't begin to express to you just how important it is- yet I am here attempting to tell you that peeps, IT'S ALL ABOUT BEING JOYFUL.  No fear.  No doubt.  Fear and doubt are insidious joy-stealers.  Manifestation-blockers.  Dream-destroyers. Fear and doubt are of the dark and should be avoided at all costs.

In another post I will explain why I feel this way, what I've experienced to make me so passionate about sharing with you the need for joy in your life.  I can tell you that recently I've been forced to strip away fear and doubt and fully believe for the first time in my life.  I always called myself a "believer" but I didn't really trust God, and I got called out on it.  In a big way.  My walls are falling, finally, and I get it.  And you will too. Protect your joyful energy at all costs.  It is the energy that helps heal the world, your world and the world around you.  

I've been manifesting lately and it comes as a shock to me because although I "know" stuff I didn't really believe it, and that ended up being a problem for me.  I've been trying, oh so hard, to be joyful.  And the happier I am the more what I ask for comes to me.  I am experimenting with it now and I see it is real.  Magic is real and it is energy-based.  I feel I am "seeing" this so I can share the truth, that we are all very powerful beings with the ability to change our own lives if we would just try and concentrate on love and joy and faith and belief and hope.  So give it a shot.  I swear it's true, and it only took me ten years to discover.  I "knew" it but I didn't believe it until my life got a shakedown like no other and I basically had no choice but to stand at attention- and I began truly seeing for the first time in my life that the world we see around us is not truly reality.  It is what we allow to happen to us instead of us creating the world for ourselves.  Don't let life happen to you- create your own world.  And start by being joyful and thankful, and trust whoever or whatever is God to you.  Love yourself and your neighbor... and that guy who just cut you off in traffic.  Dance and sing and keep your energy elevated and watch as life begins to fall into place for you.

Just try it.  Simple curiosity to start and as you notice change being created, good things happening to you or coming to you, make note and keep trying.  I promise it's worth it.  JOY.  Belief.  Love.  

So very worth it for you and because we are all connected, for the world.  

Love to all,


Saturday, December 28, 2013

Love And Fear

1 John 4: 18-19  There is no fear in love but perfect love casts out fear because fear hath punishment.  The one who fears is not made perfect in love.  We love because He first loved us.

The picture above depicts perfectly my life over the last two and a half years, love trapped in fear.  My spiritual journey has been a long process that started back in 2004 when I met Madelyn.  But in August of 2011 I walked outside with my one year-old son in my arms and I looked up at the sky.  I felt lonelier than I ever had in my life.  I was weary, hopes crushed, dreams dashed upon the rocks of life.  "Please God, please change my life by the time I'm forty!" is what I implored of God as I raised my {I'm sure} red-rimmed eyes to the heavens.  I didn't think God was listening, not truly, but oh was I wrong.  Oh man was I wrong!

Immediately my life began to change.  "Change" is a gentle word to describe what happened to my life.  More like it spun off into a tail spin that has only recently calmed.  My story will take several blog posts, and I plan to share it with you because it is my soul quest to do so.  I have learned so so much since then, much of it unconventional and hard to accept and believe.  I've been pushed and prodded to open my heart and knock down my walls so I could believe; it is only when I believe that I can teach what I've learned, and I am sure now, at forty years old, it is time for me to share my lessons.

Sharing this process I've experienced won't be easy.  I've dealt with fear so deep and personal it can't really be expressed in words but I will try.  I will have to touch on my past which is a sensitive subject for me.  Some dragons need to be kept sleeping, some secrets do not need to be uncovered.  But I do have a history, and it is mine.  I lived it, and I have a truth that is all my own.  I deserve to share my truth.  There is no point in my recounting sordid experiences to shock or induce pity; pity is the last thing I desire.  But I know there are others out there who have walked the same path as me, and those people are struggling like I have and I want them to know there is light in the darkness even if it seems so dim to be hardly evident.  But it is there.  Believe me the light is there, and God is the one holding the lantern.  It is not my goal to recount incidents of my life that will hurt or harm the living.  I am here only to love and teach, not cause humiliation or pain. At the same time my youth was difficult and parts of it will have to be discussed.  Honestly the "whats" about my past are not important; the "whys" are where the testimony is held.  It is tiring to hear someone detail "war stories" of a bleak childhood in a "My story is worse than yours" attitude.  There is harm is regurgitating old painful experiences because the mind becomes convinced the situations have happened over again; there is danger in the stereotypical image of a patient stretched out on a couch hearing the words, "So tell me about your childhood."  There is also such a thing as shattering privacy.  We will be doing none of that here.

What I am here to say is I believe in soul, strongly in soul.  I believe our journeys are chosen before we come to earth and *we* choose them ourselves.  I believe in reincarnation.  I also believe in heaven but my belief is much different than what is taught in church.  I have experienced meeting people who have helped save my life with a few kind words or an embrace... and I know those people are soul mates.  I believe I have a large soul family, and I know soul speaks to me always, and through many people.  Lessons are around every corner.  As it pertains to my past I feel I chose to enter into a life where lessons were to be taught at every angle.  I was to learn how to endure and triumph over pain and fear, and others around me had to learn the same.  Life is one big lesson, and the strong learn from the lessons and go on to teach others so they too can survive and heal.  

My childhood was not an easy one.  There was a lot of love but also a decent amount of fear.  The term "Walking on eggshells" is a perfect way to describe how I felt at home.  I loved and still love my parents very much.  Wounded hearts go on to wound because they know no different.  Generational abuse is very real; pain is passed down from generation to generation until somewhere in there the brakes are thrown.  I am thankful to God that the pain stops at our generation, and that is only due to His grace.  My parents are very strong people who have fought their own personal demons, and boy how did they fight.  Kudos to them because when many couples would have thrown in the towel, broken up, become more dysfunctional and sunk down into the gallows of despair they did the opposite.  They worked hard together to heal and recover from their struggles and they did this together.  My parents have been married for over forty years. They are loving parents and grandparents and I feel very blessed to have them in my life.             

My experiences have shown me that life is a process, and it's a complicated experience.  I feel as a soul I chose to come to earth to learn how to become a strong fearless woman.  I am fairly sure my lessons in this lifetime concern FEAR, DOUBT and BELIEF.  I have no problem at all loving people.  I am extremely forgiving, empathetic and loving.  I couldn't hold resentment in a bucket if I tried.  I am far from perfect and I get angry but I'm over in soon, and the older I get the less I anger.  But fear has been my number one nemesis in this life, and writing this blog is a step in the process of healing completely from my fears.

I have been nervous to speak my truth.  Afraid to put my "real self" out here.  The self who has direct communication with soul and experiences some really, er, different stuff.  I have strong spiritual guidance that I channel, and even now I am surprised albeit blessed by how easily I channel Spirit.  I really don't know what else to call "it."  Some say spirit guides.  Angels.  Ascended Masters.  Jesus.  God.  Dragons, fairies, earth, air or water spirits and even animals.  I've had spirit guides in my life, and angels.  But now I call my guidance Spirit and think of it as a divine energy that guides me, and often I am pretty sure I am guided by my soul.  I, me as a human, can be very dense.  Thick as a brick wall.  Luckily God blesses me with a constant connection to Spirit so I can hear the workings of my soul.  Without my spiritual GPS system I may have been lost ages ago... but despite my deep layers of fear and doubt God has never let me go.

I am writing this blog now, rambling right this moment, to describe my experiences with God.  I want to tell people who God is to me, "The Divine."  I have learned and been shown first hand how the divine guides us.  Strongly is the perfect word to describe how the divine guides us.  The divine has workings in our lives at all moments but often ego and fear overshadow the workings of Spirit.  I use God, Spirit and Soul interchangeably because I feel they are all part of a whole Universal Creation Energy, an energy we are all part of.  God is me and you.  We are God.  God is an energy and that is Love.  God is love.  Fear is separation from God.  

I had a small but huge eye-opening experience happen to me a few nights ago.  Battling my fears has taken a good part of two and a half years, and at times I was not sure I would survive.  The Dark Night of The Soul is true and can be an emotional pain worse than anything imaginable.  I have found myself on my knees keening, an unholy animalistic sound coming from me as I'm rendered totally defenseless.  Sounds have come from me that I don't even recognize as human as I've prayed to God to not let me go through my pain and darkness- it's a purging process.  Spiritual and very real although many people do not understand it. This process has hit me very hard these last two months.  There was a catalyst to this which I feel is some of my final hardcore purging of my major fears.  Throughout this process I've learned that while I know, and I've been shown, I still did not BELIEVE in God's grace.  I did not have faith in Him.  I could not surrender my life to the divine no matter how many signs or messages I was given.  

Christmas was hard for me.  I am missing someone very much, and the missing has been a part of my healing process {a story for another post.}  This missing has brought out every one of my deepest fears concerning abandonment and not being loveable, about being forgettable and easily disposed of.  Soul has taught me some very interesting, deep and hard to accept truths about spiritual healing.  Much of the information I have been given has illicited further doubt and fear in me because I just could not belive.  Refused.  Signs abound, really strong signs like radio stations switching to play a poignant song with a specific message for me.  I've received reminder messages on my iPhone that were honest to God put there by the divine.  Computer issues, songs, dreams, words other people speak to me that I know are coming straight from soul telling me TO BELIEVE.  To give up fear and just believe.  But I refused, and I'll tell ya I learned a lot about what happens when we cling to fear, and it ain't fun.  Spirit can and will make our fears come true so we can battle them, and watch out when that happens because it can feel like life as you know it is coming to an end.  The missing I speak of was created due to my strong old fears about myself; I literally very quietly pushed someone away from me due to fear- and it was all soul-inspired.  Soul orchestrated.  As it is explained to me, and will be explained deeper in a future post, burdens can be soul-orchestrated.  So can suffering.  It's like this- you know those sayings like, "What you think about most you attract to you?"  Yeah well heed those words because they are truer than true.  If you want something bad enough, and if that is pain and fear, then soul WILL give those things to you so you can feel the pain so strongly that you choose to let go.

Been there.  Done that.  Got the t-shirt.  It is very very true.  Spirit wants us to soar and dream and love.  But when people like me, people who fear belief like it's the hairy drooling monster in the closet, insist on clinging to fear even when I longed for love- I got fear.  I got love too.  Oh did I get love!  But fear followed, and it sucked.  Badly.

A few nights ago I was cuddling with my little dream come true, my now four year-old son PJ.  My heart had been broken to bits and I've been struggling with fear, pain and disbelief.  I forgot to trust God.  I've never fully trusted God, goes back to my childhood and how I did not feel I could trust those who were supposed to love and take care of me- very hard association to break.  I do have strong contact with Spirit, and I try to listen but when it comes to my own personal hopes and dreams I freak out.  I don't trust.  I run from faith, hope and love as it pertains to me.  Mixed in lately with my messages is the word "jingle."  I had no idea why.  Jingle.  Hm.  I already know when I get messages I don't completely understand to simply wait and it will be made clear to me.

My son and I curled up on the couch and I said, "Hey buddy how about watching The Polar Express?"  As the movie began I grew increasingly uncomfortable as I realized I was lead to watch that particular movie that night.  The boy in the movie is a total skeptic.  A non-believer, and oh he wants to believe so badly!  he longs to believe.  He almost does not get on the train but his soul spoke to him at the last minute and he hopped on for the ride.  At one point he's told, "You're a doubter!  You're a doubter!  You don't believe!"  I knew without a shadow of a doubt that Spirit was talking to me as I watched this doubtful little boy ache for belief.  It was soon time to put my little man to bed so I watched the remainder of the movie by myself.

And I sobbed.  Jingle.  The boy could not hear sleigh bells ring because of his doubt.  Only at the end of the movie once he finally sees Santa can he hear the bells jingle.  He asks Santa for a bell as his gift, and then he loses it.  He finds it under the tree Christmas morning.  At the end of the movie he says that over the years all the adults lose the ability to hear the jingle of the bell, all adults except for him because he always believed.

After I watched this movie I lay in bed deeply praying.  Soul has been speaking to me about my faith lately, rather my lack of faith.  I have been hurting and I am almost in too much pain to seek refuge in God.  I do not trust.  I am afraid of disappointment.  I have a severe lack of hope.  So I spoke to God.  I cried out to him actually, begged him.  I said, "I do believe.  I do."  "I believe."  I asked for a sign that what Spirit has been teaching me could possibly be true.  I asked for proof, just like the bell the little boy received.

As I said "I believe" I felt a strong energy behind my eyes.  There was a twitching, lights behind my eyelids.  In the morning I thought maybe I had been dreaming {doubter here!}  I woke and thought about the lights behind my eyes.  And as I started my morning I found my sign.  A HUGE clear glaring sign that cannot be explained away as coincidence or happenstance or accident.  I received an email from this person I've been missing, and this is after over a month of silence- a silence Spirit tells me is not an accident.  It is a silence to show me a process of healing fear.  I know it sounds very unbelievable but Spirit can and will use very close soul connections as "channels" to teach us lessons.  God uses us as instruments of His peace and healing, and sometimes for some of us stubborn ones the healing comes from being hit with huge doses of pain and fear until we finally cave and face off those fears, overcoming them.  We can make change happen, and it may be change we do not like at all if it is inspired by fear.  Soul will use fear to teach us, and in very unconventional ways.  But that morning I received my jingle bell.  

I asked God to please give me hope.  To please please please SHOW ME.  Give me something to believe in.  Ensure I can trust and hope and have faith in this strange process I've been going through, and the response was undeniable.  Not only was I happy to hear from this person- it was way way more than the contact.  It was the fact that I said, "I believe" and was given something to believe in.  The message came through not long after I feel asleep, and the tone and content showed me what I needed to know.  God blessed me with proof so I can, in fact, surrender all of my fears to Him.  And I am.

God gave me my "jingle."  

And I am starting here because I know that there are many others out there who feel alone even when they know they are not.  There is a big difference between knowing and believing.  Sometimes we need a boost.  A unmistakable sign or message.  It is all about belief, intention, trust, hope and love.  Spirit wants us to believe and dream.  I have much more to share, and hopefully it will help someone out there find light in the darkness.  

I can't begin to express to you how important it is to hold on to your dreams and not ruin them with fear.  Fear is dark and insidious and will convince you of anything.  It inspires paranoia.  Fear very nearly took over my life, trying to separate me from God, from Love, but He kept me close and pushed me to believe.

Love only.  No fear.



Wednesday, July 17, 2013

Love Versus Attachment

 photo a6130e54-2f1a-49ae-860c-0e3c90202899_zps21c7fd91.jpg

Love is a profoundly deep feeling of intense affection for someone or something. It is high and light and wonderfully of God; love truly does make the world go 'round.  Love is the electricity that illuminates the universe. Love inspires us to write and sing and dance and create and *squeeeee* when we see the perfection of a newborn baby or when we catch a glimpse of our favorite person or hear a snippet of a beloved song.  Love is bliss.  Love is Rapture. There should be no pain in love. Or anxiety. And absolutely no fear. Sounds like a difficult state to achieve doesn't it? Impossible even.  Well it isn't impossible to experience love with no fear or attachment although it takes some intense inner work and will always be a journey to reach a goal instead of a ending up at the destination. Many people experience attachment to others instead of love for them. We have ALL been there because we are human.  When you feel "love" for another person that also involves low-energy emotions like: fear, anxiety, depression, anger, sadness or suffering this is not a high-energy love. It is attachment.

According to psychologist Mary Ainsworth, "Attachment is not just a connection between two people; it is a bond that involves a desire for regular contact with that person and the experience of distress during separation from that person." Now this is fine and dandy between an infant and her mother but attachment is not healthy in a romantic relationship {the word "distress" here should stick out to you like a turd in a punchbowl.}  A barnacle attaches to the bottom of a ship and later has to be violently scraped off by the crew. Lamprey eels attach to the flesh of other fish to suck their blood- that is "attachment." Not love.

So think about it... you see attachment all the time, all around you in real life and in the media.  Rarely is "true love," unconditional love, portrayed correctly in the media.  Love songs are mostly about sick attachment, and I apologize if I am raining on your romantic parade {I now feel like posting a link to "Singing in The Rain!} Bruno Mars' song "Grenade?"  Reeks of attachment.  He gave her all he had and she decided she no longer wanted him in her life but he'd still catch a grenade for her or take a bullet straight through his brain for her, endure a ton of pain for her.  That is not love- it is sickness.  

A couple "falls in love" and after the initial honeymoon phase of spending every imaginable moment together being connected at the hip {and other places maybe heh heh heh} is over then low-energy emotions being to creep in when one partner may want to ease back into having a little bit of personal space.  Jealousy, a total low-energy fear-based emotion, is a classic reaction when this happens.  Then Facebook stalking begins, the distrust grows.  Silly ego-based worries crop up that allow our self-esteem to plummet when it is imagined that our partner may be out looking for a new love instead of say maybe... being home practicing his guitar or maybe even swilling a few beers with his buddies while giving high fives and smack talking.  We are not experiencing "love" for that person when we desire to be with them every waking moment but instead attachment.  Do not let love turned attachment fall even deeper into an addiction for another person because then You. Are. Screwed.  Only pain will lie ahead for you as you suffer the eventual train wreck of breakup and withdraw, just like coming off the high of any other drug of choice. 

Love would be wanting to give your mate space to breathe and grow and be his own person.  Love would be loving *yourself* enough to desire the same thing for YOU.  Do not lose yourself in a relationship.  Be more aware than most.  Do not attach yourself to your "love" like a lamprey eel, sucking out the lifeblood in a fruitless effort to feel better about yourself through the constant attention of another.  That is distress and desperation, so so far from love.  You do not need someone else to fill you because you are complete on your own.

Love yourself first.  When you do you will not need to seek affirmation through the eyes of another. No, really.  I know it sounds cliche' but honest-to-God cross my heart it really must happen first that you love yourself before you can be content with another and he content with you.  And I do mean blissfully in love with yourself... look in the mirror and give yourself a "Come here often?" cheeky smile of adoration and admiration for all you've achieved in life, and all you've managed to overcome through mistakes, pain and suffering as well. Learn this loving yourself because I guarantee if you don't then The Universe, God, All That Is- will eventually force you to do so.  And at times it ain't a fun lesson.  Read up on learning to love yourself and connecting to your Higher Self.  Learn about your chakras and where they might be blocked and all that inner stuff no one ever really wants to take the time to do, like yoga and prayer and meditation, but that completely heals and awaken us.   

In the end when you have a better more concrete idea of what true unconditional love really is, a love where you can let someone go when you know it is in his or her or your higher good to do so even though letting go may be heartbreaking, you will know true emotional freedom.   Then the awful digging-into-your-flesh ties that bind you, attach you, to seeking affirmation of love outside of your own heart will forever be broken.  Always remember when a person you love has come and gone from your life it takes a strong individual to allow that love to forever reside in the heart while letting go of the attachment; this ability to let go is true unconditional love- the love that God has for us and desires us to have for others.

How strong are you?


Sunday, December 30, 2012

Your Own Worst Enemy

I sat at the blue cafeteria table, staring into space. 

I heard the soft footsteps come up behind me, but I didn't feel the need to turn around.  It just didn't matter.

"I know you're upset. Can I explain?"

I choked back the tears.  I didn't want to give the very person who rejected me the satisfaction of showing me how upset I really was.  But my silence didn't seem to scare him off any and he sat across from me anyhow.

"It isn't that you aren't any good, Kristy.  That isn't why I didn't choose you for the group."

"Then why, Mr. V?  Why? You said yourself how well I did on my audition.  You said yourself how determined I was.  You said..."

"I know I did," he interrupted with a sigh.  Bowing his head for a moment, he grabbed my chin and made me look straight in his blue eyes.  "One day you will understand, but right now all you need to know is that this isn't yours.  It isn't because of your talent, or lack of talent, it is because you have to walk your own path.  And you aren't doing that by mulling in self pity."  My band and concert choir teacher dropped his hand, bit his lip and stood up to leave.

"If I am not walking my path, Mr. V, what path am I supposed to take?" I asked, tears flooding my eyes.  

"I am not sure, Kristy.  That is for you to discover."

Every time I watch the hit television show Glee, it brings back my memories of rejection, but most of all the conversation that I shared above.  I wanted to be a part of a small and elite choir.  I had done so well on my audition and was certain that the spot was mine, only to read the names on the list and see that my name wasn't included.  Instead of my name there was a name of another, someone who didn't belong in the group.  She couldn't sing.  And I don't say that to be cruel either..she couldn't sing!  I was devastated.   The instructor of the performing arts program was every-body's favorite and not just because he guaranteed an easy grade, but because he truly cared and went above and beyond.  It was rare that he had a temper, but when he did, you knew he meant it.  And the day he sat across from me, his temper flared just briefly, but not out of anger, but out of frustration. 

I never did get to the bottom of why I wasn't the chosen one, except perhaps that one decision could have changed the entire course of my life. 

How many times do we get caught up in the competitiveness of the situation?  Interview for a job that we really don't care to have, but when the job doesn't go to us we get angry?  Query a publisher that we know isn't right for the project and yet when the rejection comes, throw out some curse words?  Date someone who we don't really have a connection with, and yet when they call it quits eat ice cream for a week for being rejected? 

I used to look around at the other Psychic/Mediums/Paranormal Investigators/Authors and wonder why they got chosen for a television show and I didn't.  Or why they got picked up on a book deal and I was told 'no'.  I used to, until I realized that I wasn't walking my path.  They weren't the enemy, I was. 

Do you realize how much more you will get done by creating your own existence!!  By looking around you, you are wasting time in creating your path.  You don't have to be like everybody else.  In fact, you don't want to be like everybody else because that gets boring.  So stop making excuses.  Stop sabotaging yourself.  Stop comparing yourself to others.  And start.  Start what?  I will take a quote from my very wise teacher.  "I am not sure.  That is for you to discover."


Tuesday, December 25, 2012

Merry Christmas

I have always thought of Christmas as a good time; a kind, forgiving, generous, pleasant time; a time when men and women seem to open their hearts freely, and so I say, God bless Christmas!
~Charles Dickens
Merry Christmas from our home to yours! The presents have all been opened and the house is empty except for Chuck and I (and my dad) as the kids have gone off to their dad’s home.
I used to hate having a split family. At 8 a.m. every Christmas morning my ex husband would pick the kids up in order to have Christmas with his family. And at 8:01 a.m., I would be in a mess of tears. Now Connor is almost 16 and Micaela is 18, and although the sadness of not having them on Christmas Day still surrounds me, ever briefly, I am grateful for each moment that I have with them, and try to not focus on each moment that I don’t.
When I was single, I would make sure to have a huge stack of books, silly movies and magazines and spend the day on the couch, watching movies and reading. I would also have a box of Kleenex next to me and cry throughout the day and night, mourning all that I didn’t have. I would cry at all the pain that was caused me and the kids, and at the fairy tale of a life that I thought I was gifted, but felt as if it was ripped from me, without my permission and none of it in my control. I thought I was handling it properly. I thought wrong.
Last night, as we entertained family and friends, I thought back to those days that I thought were so completely miserable and saw the good within them. How could I treasure all that I have now without going through all of the pain?
So on this Christmas morning, I offer you a lesson that I learned from my own past. No matter your situation, you might not see the gifts around you, but take in the experience with open eyes (and some Kleenex next to you is okay too). It may seem like the worst Christmas or the saddest Christmas, but know that there are insights to be gained within them. And for those who are having the most perfect Christmas – send those higher thoughts and prayers to those who might be sad, because even your littlest boost of energy may help someone get through this holiday.
From our home to yours – the MERRIEST of Holidays!
"Christmas gift suggestions: To your enemy, forgiveness. To an opponent, tolerance. To a friend, your heart. To a customer, service. To all, charity. To every child, a good example. To yourself, respect."
- Oren Arnold
Love, Laughter and Miracles,
Kristy Robinett

Sunday, December 16, 2012

I Predict...

This time each year I receive calls and emails from television and radio stations asking for my New Year predictions. In previous years, I have reluctantly done them. I say reluctantly because I feel as if the predictions they are looking for are drama filled like - “I see several storms in this part of the country/state and will kill this many people.”
  • Eight months ago, on a syndicated radio station, I was asked who would win the Presidential Race - I replied Obama would win. I was hung up on.
  • Seven years ago on a radio station I predicted that in 2012-2013 that Unions would begin to dissolve and a new power would rise. I was laughed at.
  • Last December I predicted an East Coast hurricane. I was told that the East Coast never gets stormed and I must be off my rocker.
Since the Connecticut shootings on Friday, I have received over twenty phone calls to do prediction shows or to offer my psychic predictions on the tragedy. I have said thanks, but no thanks, and explained that as we emerge into 2013, I want to focus on the positive road and not the tragic. On Facebook I witnessed a person trying to gather people to travel to the school in Connecticut in order to do a paranormal investigation, and I reminded him of what Emerson wrote, “The meaning of good and bad, of better and worse, is simply helping or hurting.”  I was appalled (and still am). There is a place, and a time to do paranormal investigations, and then there is common sense and compassion when that time comes. Nobody likes or wants an ‘ambulance chaser’. I sort of feel the same way about making worldly predictions. Mass predictions don’t help prepare, they only feed into the fear hysteria.  Emerson also said, “Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year”.  I don’t need the ‘I told you so’ when a prediction comes to fruition, instead I would rather write the story of how I want to see things go, and make every attempt to open those doors. I would rather not put the fears out there. I want to visualize that the world is a good place, not rip it to shreds.
One of the father’s who lost his six year old little girl in Friday’s tragedy asked that we "not turn <this event> into something that defines us, but something that inspires us to be better, to be more compassionate and more humble people." And if someone who is in the midst of the devastation can ask for peace, I think we can too. We don’t have to turn this into a Civil War where society fights if guns kill or killers kill, or blame a political party. On Friday, I actually had to turn the television off and spend time with the family, hugging them, and doing what Mr. Parker said – try to become inspired instead of getting angry, because much like with 9-11, it was easy to get overwhelmed into the sadness and the despair of not being able to do anything to help take the ache away. We cannot surrender to hate and fear, however. We have to persevere. We have to grow. We have to shine.
As December 21st approaches, according to those who subscribe to the ascension belief, they would say that this is the end of the world--not the human race--but the end as we know it. We are being tested. Are we passing or failing? With the light, there is dark, but the light must shine brighter or else we all become consumed within the abyss. And so as December 21st nears, more of these dark souls will come forward and try to take as many light souls with them. Don’t let anybody or any situation take your sparkle or shine away.
In the night of death, hope sees a star, and listening love can hear the rustle of a wing. 
 ~Robert Ingersoll
So instead of offering predictions, as we prepare for the New Year, I ask instead that you shine bright, my friends, shine bright.
Kristy Robinett